How Do I Silence My Inner Critic?

Question: How Do I Silence My Inner Critic?

Short Answer: You don't silence the inner critic by fighting it—you redirect it. The critic is trying to protect you.

What This Means

The inner critic is often an internalised parent or authority figure from childhood.

Why This Happens

IFS therapy views the critic as a protective part that needs to be understood, not eliminated.

What Can Help

• Practice self-compassion and mindfulness techniques
• Seek professional support from a trauma-informed therapist
• Build emotional regulation skills through somatic practices
• Connect with supportive community and relationships
• Develop healthy boundaries and communication skills

When to Seek Support

If these experiences significantly interfere with relationships, work, or daily functioning, professional support is warranted. For immediate crisis, contact 988 or text 741741. A trauma-informed therapist can help address the root nervous system patterns while building sustainable coping strategies.

Research References

• Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Penguin.
• Porges, S.W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory. Norton.
• Neff, K.D. (2011). Self-Compassion. William Morrow.
• Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly. Gotham Books.